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How many married people we got out there?! Holler!! I know, I know I'm barely married (3 months as of the 12th-woohoo!) But, as my dad once quoted "Love is blind, but marriage is an eye-opener..." Oh, how that truth rings loudly in my ears!

   Of course people tell you before you are married how that marriage isn't all good sex and lovey-dovey presents with ooey-gooey kisses and sweet-loving music everywhere you go...BUT, that somehow always creeps back into your imagination :) With permission from my husband (thanks babe!) I thought I'd tell one of my more recent tales that may help another young married woman as I...ahemm....
    There once was a tale of a flawless bride...haha joking. But, seriously folks- Last week had been a rather |SLIM| week money wise as it was the "bill time of the month", so this week I thought I'd do something special to celebrate our '3-month- anniversary'.

**I had it all planned out in my head (don't act like you don't do this):

- Frank Sinatra will be singing in the background with beautiful candles lit everywhere...
- After spending an hour or so on make-up, hair, and perfecting every last detail, he will be shocked at my sheer beauty and won't be able to keep his hands off of me...
- He'll come in, sweep me off of my feet, and tell me how much he had missed me...
- I'll have prepared a wondrous meal for him that he will praise me for and devour every last crumb...
- We'll spend a romantic evening dancing in our living room and telling each other how special what we have is...

(( ahhhh :) warm fuzzy feeling))

**What REALLY Happens:

- I'm running around frantically trying to throw something edible together.

- He comes home smelling like...well, like he worked all day.

- Gives me a quick kiss and tells me he already ate

- Puzzled he asks me "Why are you wearing those uncomfortable shoes in the house?"

- He asks if he can turn the lights on because it's too dark with only the candles....

- Tells his friend to come down because he already invited him for dinner...

- Changes the CD from 'Frank Sinatra' to the Beatles and talks about "all the good licks in the song"

- Gives me a pat on the butt and tells me I'm hot, he loves me, & thanks for dinner.

    Now, in my mind I'm thinking...I just watched this beautiful movie in my head of what was going to happen and it didn't. Did I set myself up to be disappointed?? Or was I not looking at the fact that HE DIDN'T see what I saw in my head...and he thought the night was great!

   I'm learning that the more I dream up my idea of "romance", the more I find that 9 out of 10 times it doesn't happen like that. Life is not 'The Phantom of the Opera", unfortunately (which by the way is an amazing Broadway).

   I could have applied VivaGlam Cyndi Lipglass at $20 a pop, or spritzed myself in Burberry, or updated my do with a touch of golden highlights...and you know what? He always is befuddled at why I would change something when it smelled or looked just fine? I once got some light highlights and he asked, "Is that your summer hair? It looked fine before." To him it's like the old saying, 'If it ain't broke; don't fix it."

   You know what is romantic to him? When I cook a good meal and listen to his music with him and tell him what I think, or like and don't like. He likes when I paint and am creative in my spare time. He likes for me to just "be there" in the room when he's watching a movie or making a beat. And you know what I get in return?? Without asking?? His attention...his words...good conversation! What else could I ask for...

   So, in all of that I hope you get out of this that a gift isn't always what you want to give, but what does the other person want to get?

  Ciao, until next time!